Dating advice for women playing hard to get
Find a way to let him know that, while you want to get to know one another better before jumping into bed, you are looking forward to it happening when it does.
You’re not teasing him…but you do want to let him know you want to take your time…and that it’ll be sooo worth it when it happens.
via GIPHY Yes, you’re a modern woman, and I fully support you making the first move with a guy, but realize that men are psychologically wired to like to chase things (women, animals). Maybe in your 20s, you were the forward girl who would kiss a guy first.
So you might not even know what it feels like to be pursued.
When you text all the time, you don’t notice that he never initiates. Especially because you’re looking for something long-term, understand that sex factors hugely into shaping your relationship early on.
But if you wait for him to initiate at least 2/3 of the time, you quickly notice when the time between texts stretches out to days. If you have sex too soon, he might get the impression that you just want something casual (which is fine with him), while you may get emotionally attached too early, making you invest more emotionally into the relationship than he does.
Instead, use what I call the Text Initiation Ratio: for every two of his calls or texts, initiate your own.
There’s always the issue of compatibility, which you can in no way force.
But you’re older and wiser now, and you understand that it’s important to balance all aspects of your life, including love. If you have dance class on Mondays, go out with the girls for happy hour on Wednesdays, and do yoga on Saturday mornings (not to mention having lots of time for you to curl up on your couch and read by yourself), don’t change a thing about your schedule. Keeping your activities communicates to this guy that, while you like him, he doesn’t take priority over the other things that are important in your world. there is absolutely no rule that says you have to have the same hobbies as him!
So if you think this guy is worth your time, by all means, give him some of it. These are the activities and hobbies that keep you whole and happy, so never ever give them up. Either you do your own stuff separately or you can introduce one another to things you enjoy doing. So if you absolutely hate hockey after he takes you to a game, he can share that with his brother while you go get pedicures with your BFF.
When you first start dating someone new, block off the days you have things going on in your calendar so you don’t accidentally agree to go out on a date on those days.
Even exercise should be a calendar item so that you prioritize the things that make you happy.